Sometimes I feel like I’m missing myself and I seem to have lost me. This week, I watched a comedy special from Michelle Buteau and I was reading her fabulous book, Survival of the Thickest. I had a lot going on and those were both making me laugh and feel lighter. And then I felt this hole inside of me, this missing, and lack of connection.
It was me, calling to me, asking me to nourish and fill myself up with me. That missing feeling was guiding me to spend time with myself in ways that could address that lack. I’m doing that this morning and it feels much better.
There are so so many ways to spend one’s time, and it’s easy to miss the call from within about our own needs and what will help meet them. Especially when living a busy life with work, family, kids/pets/volunteering, etc.
During this time of healing, I am learning the importance of attuning to my mind, body and soul to notice my needs. I am learning that doing that helps regulate the nervous system and can help heal from emotional trauma through being the person that meets your needs.
It’s amazing how some things that meet my needs one day but not the next. I think that’s a way to help me tune in more deeply, instead of rotely going through the motions of taking care of myself. I am learning how to connect with myself and settle more into my body so that I can better feel into my needs. This is getting easier over time and seems like daunting and overwhelming and more like a healthy and nourishing habit. I used to TRY so hard to do everything right and now I’m learning to focus on tuning in and listening instead of rushing, fixing, pressuring and trying. One day at a time 💖.
And so, for the rest of the day, I’m going to pay attention to myself, rest, and allow myself to be exactly as I am, with some support from me. I wish you all the best with what your days bring you! And may kindness and compassion towards yourself be part of your days too!
With care ♥️, Bradlee
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