Category Archives: Self-Reflection

Changing Expectations

Well, it’s nearly the end of 2024, and I have  deep thoughts to share as the year comes to a close. I grew up at a time where success in life looked a certain way, and I recently realized how much I was holding myself to those societal expectations. As a person with a disability,Continue reading “Changing Expectations”

Reconnecting to myself

Sometimes I hear my voice inside me and it’s loud and clear. Other times it’s like there is so much noise from the world that is making it harder to know who I am and where I stand. Today, I went for a walk in the woods and I heard the noise. I felt theContinue reading “Reconnecting to myself”

Helping others and myself

I really like helping others.  I also really like helping myself and giving myself care, compassion, and gentleness.  Life has felt hard lately, probably because it has been really tough.  When times are like that, I feel myself rising to the challenge and other times, I feel myself getting smaller and in need of timeContinue reading “Helping others and myself”

Reaching across

I am reaching Reaching across my inner divideTo the one who feels so unsafe and so unlovedBut I see I have been reaching in the wrong direction I have been doing so much to control my environment to keep myself safeAnd I have been talking nicely and kindly to myselfBut in this moment, I seeContinue reading “Reaching across”

Giving my anger a voice

In my life, I have not been kind to my anger. I have denied it, suppressed it and turned it inwards instead of giving it a voice.  I specifically remember times when I felt anger building within me and I told it and myself that I wanted to be nice and that my anger hadContinue reading “Giving my anger a voice”

Life on country roads

Several years ago, I heard a beautiful analogy that really applied to my life: the different types of roads and the speeds allowed on each one to understand the various phases of life. Right now, I am traveling on country roads. I can speed up and get on a two lane highway for a shortContinue reading “Life on country roads”

When it all works out

I love it when it all works out! I find it especially exciting after a time of deep fatigue, anxiety, stress, or tension (or all of them)! Maybe that’s the gift the contrast between the highs and lows of life gives us? This past weekend, I went to a beautiful family reunion, and I sawContinue reading “When it all works out”

Building resilience and what does that even mean?

I used to think that I was broken because I can feel things so deeply in my mind, body, soul and heart. I used to think I was not good enough because I was always working on myself. In writing on this blog, and reading my beautiful friend Carla’s comments, and the comments of someContinue reading “Building resilience and what does that even mean?”

Being while doing

  I really liked the subject of yesterday’s post, remembering the human in all of us (https://phdinbeingme.ca/2023/07/13/for-the-human-in-all-of-us/). Today, I am taking the concept a bit further by explaining my own troubles with losing myself in doing things. When I am tired, which is often because I have chronic fatigue syndrome, I sometimes feel overwhelmed byContinue reading “Being while doing”