I have recently learned about the value of writing out the tough feelings I have, without limits or censoring, and then ripping it up. I was a bit skeptical at first, but there is something so freeing about writing with no limits until my hand hurts, and feeling all the emotion pouring out onto theContinue reading “Writing for expression”
Tag Archives: self-care
Boundaries
I am exploring boundaries in therapy and in my daily life. I have heard about boundaries a lot over the years, but hadn’t done a big exploration of what they are and aren’t in my life, why I need them and how they can help. So far, I have identified what it feels like when:Continue reading “Boundaries”
Each breath
Lately, I have been wondering more about the purpose of life. The longer I live, 45 years so far, the more I think it is about breathing each breath, being there, as a companion for myself, while I live my life. I have lived through so many moments when I have felt desperately alone orContinue reading “Each breath”
Reflections
It is easy to not feel good sometimes. It is easy to amass all kinds of evidence about my shortcomings, failures and deficiencies. It is much harder, sometimes, to focus on all that is going well and all the good I bring to the world. A few weeks ago, I was sitting by the creekContinue reading “Reflections”
A pause
The older I have gotten (I am 44), the more I am giving myself permission to pause. A pause can mean many things, including: Am I an expert at pausing? Sometimes, and sometimes I rush and feel so much pressure that a pause is the last thing I think about. Learning about me from myContinue reading “A pause”
Reconnecting to myself
Sometimes I hear my voice inside me and it’s loud and clear. Other times it’s like there is so much noise from the world that is making it harder to know who I am and where I stand. Today, I went for a walk in the woods and I heard the noise. I felt theContinue reading “Reconnecting to myself”
Helping others and myself
I really like helping others. I also really like helping myself and giving myself care, compassion, and gentleness. Life has felt hard lately, probably because it has been really tough. When times are like that, I feel myself rising to the challenge and other times, I feel myself getting smaller and in need of timeContinue reading “Helping others and myself”
Overwhelmed by my own needs
Yesterday I heard the title of this post inside of me, and I silently agreed with it. It is a sad thing to be overwhelmed by my own needs, so I did the following things: It felt great to take some pressure off of myself and to settle more deeply into being me, just asContinue reading “Overwhelmed by my own needs”
Deeper
Deeper – A self-care poem Sometimes I catch myself trying to accomplish something when I’m feelinglostsadconfused oroverwhelmed. Most of the time, the temporary high I get from accomplishing something is very fleeting andleads me to want to accomplish something else. I honestly had no idea that I was running away from myself when I wasContinue reading “Deeper”
When I write – a poem
When I write Sometimes, when I write, the wisest and steadiest parts of me have something to shareAnd it uplifts and inspires me. Other times, the most traumatized and fractured parts of meHave something to sayAnd it’s painfulDifficultAnd hardBut what they share is no less wise.In fact, those feelings help me learn how to moreContinue reading “When I write – a poem”
PhD in Being Me 