boundaries

For all the times I wanted to say no but couldn’t

Flames make me feel powerful and like I have a choice. I have so much power buried within me, because for so long I couldn’t use my voice and power. If I did, I was unsafe, so I learned to keep it down as a coping strategy. The more I learn about trauma and howContinue reading “For all the times I wanted to say no but couldn’t”

I am exploring boundaries in therapy and in my daily life. I have heard about boundaries a lot over the years, but hadn’t done a big exploration of what they are and aren’t in my life, why I need them and how they can help. So far, I have identified what it feels like when:Continue reading “Boundaries”

Getting caught up

As an empath, it is easy for me to get caught up in the feelings someone brings to their interactions with me. Recently, I have been temporarily overwhelmed by the intensity of what I am feeling, and it’s like I am stuck in a maze of those feelings. Sometimes for hours, or even a dayContinue reading “Getting caught up”

Done

Sometimes I am done. I have nothing more to give, no more capacity to think things through, or to deal with differing opinions constructively or compassionately. When I am in this place, I rest. When cookies are finished baking, there is no point in keeping them in the oven because they’ll just burn. With people,Continue reading “Done”

Giving my anger a voice

In my life, I have not been kind to my anger. I have denied it, suppressed it and turned it inwards instead of giving it a voice. I specifically remember times when I felt anger building within me and I told it and myself that I wanted to be nice and that my anger hadContinue reading “Giving my anger a voice”

Trying – a poem

I am so tired of trying. Trying to make life work with a limited amount of energy. Trying to make healthy choices so i dont get worse. Trying at work, at home and with friends and family, and everywhere else. Trying is exhausting. Today i surrender to who i am, to my reality and toContinue reading “Trying – a poem”

A little space

Do you ever feel like you need a little space? Gosh, I know I do! If you can relate to the facial expressions below, please read on and check out my video further down ❤️❤️. Sometimes, you need a little space. When life feels like too much, when there is too much to do, orContinue reading “A little space”

So worthy

Over the past few days, I have been witnessing and hearing about people being treated as less than. It really bothers me, and I get really angry and want to change our world for the better. I know that hurt people hurt people, but I can’t help but feel like we should all be ableContinue reading “So worthy”

When rest is best

Living with chronic fatigue syndrome can be quite confusing and hard. I remember being a student athlete, working full time and working on a Master’s degree in another city, and other wonderful examples of having energy. I also know that having this medical condition has taught me so much about myself and has given meContinue reading “When rest is best”

Beyond the Breaking Point

In my previous post, I wrote about being at the breaking point. It was a post overflowing with the rawness of emotion I was experiencing at the time. Writing that post gave me courage to be with myself when I was so angry, disappointed and violated. It helped me understand that I didn’t need toContinue reading “Beyond the Breaking Point”